When we use the Scapular as a prayer, Our Lady draws us to the Sacred Heart of Her Divine Son. It is well, therefore, to hold the Scapular in the hand, while addressing our Lady. A prayer uttered thus while holding the mystical Scapular is a perfect prayer. It is especially in time of temptation that we need the powerful intercession of God's Mother. The evil spirit is utterly powerless when a scapular-wearer facing temptation, besides his silent devotion, calls Mary. "If thou hadst recommended thyself to Me earlier, thou wouldst not have run into such danger", was Our Lady's gentle reproach to Blessed Alan.
"The inner life of another that is known to God alone becomes to a much less degree open to us through friendship. It partially fills the desire of our incomplete, lonely hearts for completeness in another. Friendship brings out the best in a person through forgetfulness of self." - St. Thomas Aquinas